(Here is a link to a page where you can explore different models of disabilities.)mymdrc.org/leadership/models-of-disability
Since disability is one of your many identities, it is possibly not your strongest one. Stella Young has a great description of this in her YouTube video. The video is about her concept of disability as not making you exceptional. In it she describes herself as an average teen and tells about the time her home town wanted to give her an achievement award. But, Stella Young talked about how at the time, she didn’t have any major achievements.
I believe this notion is a very important part of identity, being able to know your qualities. This can help you see your disability as one of your many identities.
Later in the video, she talks about the genius of figuring out you can use things like bar-b-que tongs to pick things up. I don’t know about you, but this helps to give me pride. When you talk to other people with similar disabilities you learn about ways of working with disabilities, and Accessible Technology that could help you. For example I was told you can make a request for your meat to come cut, possibly by the cook. This helps me and I agree with Stella Young that the idea is genius. Talking to other people in the disabled community gives you new ideas strengthening disabled pride.
I am going to leave you with Stella Young, an icon, who can explain these ideas well, enjoy.